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7 Quick Takes

2012-01-27T14:43:00.000-05:00

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1. So, I have been home a week and still not quite up to my usual self. Each day it gets a bit better as far as sleep and brain function. Who knew vacation could do this to you? I suppose it is the combination of the length of time I had off, close to 4 weeks; then 2 weeks in Australia and the time difference between here and there. I figure by Sunday I will be 100% back to normal. Normal being a very relative adjective to use when describing myself.
2. Normal though is what a parishioner said she like most about me and our pastor this week. We began a class on the U.S. Catechism for Adults and when class was over she came up to me and told me that she appreciated that we are so normal and don't act all holy and perfect. We are approachable. I think it's one of the nicest compliments, for both of us.
3. In March we are having our Confirmation Retreat. Can you guess the theme?

4. Besides the Catechism class I have a Ignatius bible study on the Gospel of Mark and The Introduction to the Bible book we are studying. So, that is a total of three courses I have to prepare and plan for each week. I will be busy.

5. I have so much to write about my trip, but have not had much time. I hope this weekend will be quiet and I can turn my notes into something readable with pictures to show you all the fun places we went and beautiful country we saw.

6. My husband has a new job. It was finalized while I was away. He is teaching in an alternative school. Then, our son was officially promoted and is now in charge of the kitchen at Hillstones in Orlando (shameless plug, but I'm the mom). He is thrilled and we are very proud of him. Our daughter is very happy with the family she is working for in Sydney and I was able to meet them one afternoon. The children send me emails now. I, of course, am still loving my job of almost four months. 2012 is starting out a high note for all of us, praise and thank God for all the blessings.

7. A vacation picture!

Elisa and I in front of the Melbourne library.

Australian Vocab

2012-01-22T22:42:00.000-05:00

A small sampling of words I found interesting

Bottle shop-liquor store
Chips-fries
Muesli-granola
Overtaking-passing
Car park -parking lot
Anti clockwise - counter clockwise
Lift - elevator
Que - line, as in what you get in to buy a train ticket for example
Rotter-bad guy
Windscreen - windshield
Eske -cooler
Rubbish - trash
Sunnies - sunglasses
Mates - friends
Toilet - bathroom
Thongs - flip-flops
Take away - take out, as in food
Emu Pass is what the pass is called for automatic payment of tolls on the roads.

I will post separately on coffee. Ordering was not as easy as you'd think!

7 Quick Takes

2012-01-20T04:32:00.001-05:00

For more, go see Jennifer's blog today.

This is the Australia trip quick re-cap edition.
1. The flight was not nearly as awful as I'd thought it would be. I had plenty to read and since the long part of the trip was at night, I slept quite a bit. I arrive early and was ready to leave the airport before Elisa even got there, so I waited for her, of course and then off we went. First stop, Canberra, the capital of Australia.
2. Did you know that you have to drive on the left over there? Oh yeah, so after twenty some odd hours traveling I hopped in ready to start this adventure. Only I went to wrong side of the car! Okay, that got sorted out and so we left Sydney via Hume Highway and arrived in Canberra.

3. Picture of my favorite flower in AU. Turns out it is a type of lily from South Africa, but I saw it everywhere.

4. My favorite places in Canberra were the Parliament Building and the National Botanical Gardens.

5. Check out the view from the upper balcony down tot he reading room of the National Library. Yes, my daughter and I are a bit geeky so we go to places like libraries. We can't help ourselves.

6. Here are some more pictures and commentary:

Koala bear at the Canberra National Zoo, so adorable. Yes, maybe cliche, but really, it was looking at us and then climbed the tree and just made my day!

Love this idea in restaurant, you get a bottle of water so the waiter does not need to keep coming back to the table to fill your glasses. It wasn't in all places, but many and I think it is a great idea we should adopt.

7. I have more pictures, close to 300 I think, but I will leave you with these two.

Did you miss me?

2012-01-20T03:50:00.000-05:00

I was away on vacation....in AUSTRALIA! Yes, it was awesome, a trip of a lifetime I shared with my wonderful daughter. Two weeks to see the sights from Canberra to Melbourne to Sydney. I missed being able to write, but kept a journal which I will slowly put up for you to read.

At the National Botanical Gardens in Canberra

Book Review - Sinner by Lino Rulli

2011-12-27T21:31:00.001-05:00

First, the title really caught my attention. Second, it was written by a man. Third, it is the life story of an Italian. I figured, I'm a sinner and Italian and I know men, so what the heck, I'll choose this book to review. Okay, maybe those are not the exact reasons, but they certainly played a small part. I choose it because I wanted something different from what I usually read.

In Sinner, Rulli tells about his life the way you would hear it from your friend over a drink. Is being a Catholic always easy? No. But, as you read through the chapters you realize that to Rulli, it is worth it. He is funny, very funny and honest about who he is. HIs chapters on Confession combined with the chapter on his doctor visit while in grad school is enough to recommend the book.

In my head, I want to write things as honestly and humorously as he does. Through all the jokes and one-liners though, Rulli is a man after God's heart, trying to serve him and share Jesus' Gospel in his down to earth, easy to understand way.

This book is perfect for anyone who thinks people who write Catholic books must be oh so holy and perfect or for the person who needs to laugh a little.

I appreciate simplicity; Rulli speaks the truth about our faith and his life simply so that it is accessible to many people. Personally, I think it is more difficult to convey faith simply. Rulli does a great job. Get yourself a copy of the book and then share it with a friend.

This review was written as part of the Catholic book reviewer program from The Catholic Company. Visit The Catholic Company to find more information on Sinner. They are also a great source for a Catechism of the Catholic Church or a Catholic Bible.

PS: I totally related to people not saying his name right:)

7 Quick Takes

2011-12-16T11:13:00.002-05:00

1. I'm sure many of you have seen those big, blow up Christmas decoration for your lawn.
Well, I walk at times when these huge decorations are not inflated, so they look like nylon fabric puddles. Very sad. The other morning, as I walked and pondered life I realized that I am like an inflatable as well. When I am filled with God and the Holy Spirit I have a certain appearance and attitude. When I am empty, I am flat, just a puddle without any shape or purpose; not even recognizable as a child of God.

2. My mother's knee surgery went well. It is her right knee though, so no telling when they will be able to drive down here to Florida from New York. Next week she'll go back to the doctor and find out. She promises she'll be down here when I get back from Australia.

3. I have reservations for Canberra and Melbourne. We are stying in a hostel in Melbourne, I figured I should experience a hostel stay once. I also thought it would be better with Elisa than with my husband! It is a private room just for the two of us and has a bathroom, so I will avoid the dorm experience; I may be a bit old for that.

4. Speaking of old, my birthday is next week. I am trying to avoid it. Then I think I should be embracing life and enjoying the fact that I am still pretty young, just a few gray hairs, and good physical health. Mental, well, who knows. I'll let you know what I decide.

5. Busy weekend. Tonight I have some baking and prepping to do for our party tomorrow night. Then, Saturday get ready for the party, which is shaping up quite nicely. Sunday we are going to see Joseph and the Technicolor Dreamcoat at our local theater, Maltz Jupiter Theater. I saw the show years ago in Chicago with Donny Osmond as Joseph; I don't remember much, except that Joseph was very buff.

6. Two surprises in one day on Tuesday. First my son showed up at my office to visit for a bit. Considering he lives two hours away, it was a big surprise. Then we went to the supermarket and my husband spied an old friend at the check-out line next to us. She was in my youth ministry program back in the day, among many other things we did together. It was great to see her.

7. Tuesday night is the annual seminary Christmas party. last year it was quite cold and outdoor heaters were set up. This year we may need outdoor cool air misters instead. The party is fun, with good food and seminarian bartenders. The skits are the best though, especially when they cut up the ties of the men who will soon become transitional deacons.

7 Quick Takes

2011-12-09T15:36:00.000-05:00

More Quick Takes over here, go, it's fun!

1. I love the way the church smells where I work. When you walk in, no matter which door, you smell wax candles. Yes, we have "real" candles. I think it makes the church smell holy!

2. Although Pinterest does take up valuable time I spent on ~~Facebook~~ reading edifying books, I have made quite a few projects I found on the site. So, I'm glad I am over there. You can follow me if you'd like by clicking on the link at the left.

3. This weekend is our monthly Faith & Fun. We will decorate Gingerbread Houses and make candy gift bags for our healing Mass next week. In preparation, the parish administrator and I spent a few hours constructing the houses so they would be ready to decorate on Sunday. Let's just say it's a good thing we don't build houses for a living. As always, icing covers a multitude of issues.

4. I am behind in my plans for Australia and I had better get moving on places to sleep while we are there or we'll be sleeping in the car. I think hotels and tickets to the opera are on my to-do list for tonight.

5. Going dancing tomorrow night. Can't wait.

6. I dislike waking up and going walking in the morning. Alot. I set my alarm, have my clothes ready and find all sorts of reasons to not go. I like to walk after work; however, most evenings it is dark and I don;t like walking in the dark either. It is a bit scary. So, I need to make a decision, suck it up and go int he morning or walk in the dark and be scared? Decisions, decisions...

7. My parents are not coming for Christmas since my mom has to have surgery on her torn meniscus. My dad had his repaired a few weeks ago, they could have had it done together but alas, mom's didn't bother her until a few days ago. And when she says excruciating pain, she means it. I'm bummed, but glad it isn't anything too serious. She said they will stay through to Easter now. We'll see what happens.

The Kitchen Daughter - Book Review

2011-11-28T21:25:00.000-05:00

The Kitchen Daughter by Jael McHenry

This was an amazing book. I was just browsing in the library and happened upon it. McHenry captures the nuances of family, tragedy, cooking and loving, bringing them all together in a great read. If you love to cook, have a sister, live a life in which things are not always as they seem - read this book!

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Roman Missal Changes

2011-11-28T21:10:00.000-05:00

Yesterday was a momentous day in the American Catholic Church. We began using the third edition of the Roman Missal as we began our new liturgical year. Many have argued that instead of focusing on what is really important we are focusing on words instead of issues. What issues? It depends on who you are which issues you think the Church is avoiding. My point is not to go over all of those but rather to give a perspective that says Mass is what is really important.
Lex Orandi, Lex Credendi - We pray what we believe, therefore, what is said at Mass is not just a bunch of words randomly put together on a person's whim but truly what we, as Catholics, believe to be true. Mass is the most important activity we do because we do it in praise and thanksgiving to God. It is our taste of heaven on earth, when time is suspended and we join with everyone else on earth and in heaven to worship the One who has given us everything.
Should these words not be different than what we say to our friends over coffee? Injecting a bit more formality does not mean we cower, but rather that we acknowledge that God is God and we are not. Remember, we are speaking of communal prayer and worship, not private. In private, we can pray as we choose. In community, we need to pray as one body.
And that is one reason why changes were made to the English translation. We have been out of step with the rest of the world. My favorite new translation is "Lord, I am not worthy that you should enter under my roof, but only say the word and my soul shall be healed." Years ago, when attending our parish's Spanish Mass I read that and was so moved; it is just what the centurion said to Jesus. We said "receive you" for years, using an out of use definition of "receive" as in have a guest over to your house. Who says "I will be receiving guests today at 2 pm." anymore? Not anyone who invites me over to visit.
Mother Theresa reminded herself and her sisters always to focus on the "one thing." Our one thing is Mass. If we, as Catholics, were to spend more time praying together and do this one thing so well that it would truly be heaven meeting earth, we could solve so many issues. Even if you do not agree that these changes are right or a good idea or necessary, can we agree to focus on the one thing that can unite us? The Liturgy offered in praise and thanksgiving, for God has given us everything.

Project

2011-11-27T18:35:00.000-05:00

So, I signed up for Pinterest and I am happy to say, it is coming in handy. I've already done 2 projects I saw there.
1. I made a dress

Thanksgiving Day, very windy by the beach

2.Decorated my wall!

Advent

2011-11-21T16:14:00.000-05:00

Advent is fast approaching, so if you haven't thought about your plan for entering into the season allow me to offer you a few links:
Praying Advent, sponsored by Creighton University
Advent Resources at Loyola Press offers online retreats, prayers and more for all ages
Catholic Online - Advent pages
Catholic Mom has everything parent related

Don't forget your Advent wreath, to make or buy.

Better is One Day

2011-11-21T15:33:00.000-05:00

Yesterday was the feast of Christ the King. One of the songs we sang was "Better is One Day", sung here by Kutless. So, I am singing with my eyes closed and imagining heaven, and one day I will get to be in his courts. It is amazing; I am moved and in God's presence. I open my eyes - BIG mistake! Some folks are doing hand motions to the song, so for "one day" hold up a finger, and for "in your courts" pretend you are shooting a basketball. So, we have now effectively reduced the courts of heaven of our King, to a basketball court. I quickly closed my eyes. am I being judgmental? Do I need to lighten up? It is after all, a worship song to lead us to think of heaven, not basketball. Okay, my rant is over.

7 Quick Takes

2011-11-18T11:02:00.000-05:00

1. It is almost Thanksgiving, in case you were not aware. So, what are you cooking? My contribution to the feast is: corn casserole, sweet potatoes, mashed potatoes, apple pie and chocolate chip biscotti. My son (the chef) is making the gravy and grilled artichokes with this unbelievable sauce.

2. My dear daughter turned 23 this week. That's her over there, just a few weeks before she turned 1. She celebrated by going out to dinner with the family she works for in Australia. She also took the first step in applying to the Maryknoll Missionaries.

3. Tomorrow night we are attending a fundraiser dinner dance for Birthline/Lifeline, our local crisis pregnancy center. I am looking forward to dancing, so I hope my husband's knee will cooperate. I also bought a gorgeous new dress, 3 sizes smaller than the last time I bought a dress. Yay!

4. One of my favorite things to do at my new office is walk to the bank. It's only a block but I think it is so cool to just walk over, take care of business, and come back. I have to go today, but I'll wait until the rain stops.

5. My friend who is an interior decorator came over last Friday and helped me move my furniture around. Who am I kidding, I helped her move the furniture. It looks very nice and now I have some projects to complete to finish up the look.

6. Every morning I get a minute Meditation in my inbox. They come from American Catholic. Today was from Padre Pio: "If, despite your vigilance and goodwill, you do not succeed in doing good either in part or altogether, humble yourself profoundly before God but without discouragement. Determine to be more careful in the future, ask for divine assistance, and move forward." — from Padre Pio's Spiritual Reflection For Every Day
They are always thought provoking and I often put them on Facebook to share with others.

7. If I were Queen, I would ban all talk of Christmas until after Thanksgiving.

Hop over to Jenn for more Quick Takes!

FOCUS

2011-11-17T21:54:00.000-05:00

No, I am not suggesting you have ADD or need to pay more attention. I am talking about Fellowship of Catholic University Students. This is a wonderful organization that has embraced the New Evangelization and reaches out to what is often a misunderstood and under-served population - college students!
I first learned about FOCUS when my daughter was at the University of Florida. UF has approximately 50,000 students among all their programs and schools. It actually has more people then my town. So, finding your niche can be difficult. Thankfully, Elisa attended St. Augustine and participated in the Catholic Gator programs. That's where we learned about FOCUS. This group sends young adults onto college campuses, two by two, to reach out to all students on campus. They do this through many different activities including bible study, retreats, game nights, dinners and more.
A close friend of Elisa has become a FOCUS missionary. Her name is Mirna and she serving at Northern Arizona University. We support her in this endeavor with a monetary contribution each month and prayer. She is leading four different women's bible studies. Together with the other members of her team, she distributed Curtis Martin's book, Made for More and put on numerous events.
If you would like to find out more about Mirna and her work, go here or learn more about FOCUS and its' mission.

Confirmation

2011-11-15T14:16:00.002-05:00

In Another's Words

2011-11-08T14:36:00.000-05:00

God has created me to do Him some definite service;
He has committed some work to me
which He has not committed to another.
I have my mission—
I may never know it in this life, but I shall be told it in the next.
…I am a link in a chain,
a bond of connection between persons.
He has not created me for naught.
I shall do good;
I shall do His work;
I shall be an angel of peace,
a preacher of truth in my own place, while not intending it,
if I do but keep his Commandments.
…Therefore I will trust Him.
Whatever, wherever I am.
I can never be thrown away.
If I am in sickness, my sickness may serve Him;
in perplexity, my perplexity may serve Him;
in sorrow, my sorrow may serve Him.
…He does nothing in vain.
…He knows what He is about.
John Henry Newman

Twenty-eight Years

2011-11-06T03:49:00.002-05:00

Today is our wedding anniversary. Two years ago I wrote a post giving 26 things about our life together that made be happy. Those reasons still stand today, but I will add two more to the list.

27. I think we may be getting the hang of this 'empty-nest' thing.

28. You were my strength all through Diane's dying and death. A man's true character is shown in trials. When I say I cannot imagine having gone through all that without you I mean more than any words could ever express.

Happy Anniversary to my one and only!

One Month Anniversary

2011-11-03T18:27:00.000-04:00

Today is one month since I moved back to the world of faith formation and religious education from stewardship and communication. So, what have we accomplished in that time? We have implemented children's liturgy of the word at one Sunday Mass, began our on-line religious education program, had a parent meeting, set shcedules for all classes, set dates for sacrament meetings, planned our Confirmation program, and have begun our adult study on the Mass. We are in the process of updating our parish bulletin. We will have a Faith Formation page every week and double in size, from 4 to 8 pages.
Next on the agenda is to revamp our website, so I will be tapping into my ~~vast skills at website development~~ previous position skill set a bit. We also need to plan our parish mission for Lent.
I am also working on re-learning about all the resources available online.
At times I want to move faster, but I keep reminding myself that it takes time to get the personality of parish and so going slowly is a good idea. I think, pray, wait, plan, and then move forward. I think it works well.

Just So Often

2011-11-03T16:17:00.000-04:00

Remembrance

2011-11-02T21:30:00.000-04:00

Diane Noelle LoGrasso

Diane, a faith filled wife, mother, and friend, died before anyone wanted her to die. She passed from this life into the next after being here barely forty-three years. Diane was diagnosed with ovarian cancer in October of 2007, after months of doctor visits and tests led to the conclusion that all she needed was a routine hysterectomy and her problems would be solved. Three different health care professionals agreed. Imagine for a minute, waking up after that surgery, and seeing the face of the doctor who said you did not have ovarian cancer and finding out that said doctor was called into the surgery because you have Stage III ovarian cancer.

Treatment began after she recovered from her surgery. She sought expert advice from M. D. Anderson in Houston, Moffitt in Tampa, and doctors in Jupiter. Her husband, a scientist, spoke to colleagues trying to find the best treatment plan so ovarian cancer would not take Diane. It was a roller coaster ride of chemo, remission, testing – each time the pattern repeated the highs seemed higher and the lows lower.

Diane faced cancer as she did life. On her own terms. Her rules. She wanted to leave a legacy to the world. She did. She wanted to be remembered. She is. She wanted her suffering and death to mean something. It can. How? By working to educate health care professionals and women. By teaching women to take charge of their health care and to speak up to their doctors until they are heard. By making information about ovarian and all reproductive cancers easily accessible and understood.

We can question Diane’s cancer forever. Questioning will not change the fact that she is gone or make a difference in someone else's life. We can, as Diane said, “educate and act, to save women and their loved ones from this agony. This will make my suffering and death mean something.”

The Church and New Media

2011-11-02T09:48:00.000-04:00

The Church and New Media by Brandon Vogt is full of the possibilities we have literally at our fingertips to engage the people of God. The chapters ranged from what one blogger can do to what can be accomplished by an archdiocese and beyond. I of course love to entertain what 'could be.' In my past position I was in charge of communication for the parish and so I really enjoyed learning about using media and technology to reach our parishioners and others. Fr. Robert's Barron quote,"It would be unwise in the extreme for the Church to absent itself from the virtual Areopagus for fear of rejection or contradiction. We should enter it with courage, intelligence and sheer panache of St. Paul" echoes my belief that we must learn how to reach out using all means possible. John Roberto tells us that "We haven't yet wrapped our heads around the idea that we can reach people 24/7, anytime, anywhere. "
The authors do not shy away from discussing what is good and bad about New Media. But all have unapologetically embraced it with eyes open. In the conclusion Vogt points out that the anonymity of the Internet allows for a very non-threatening form of pre-evangilzation. The Internet cannot and should not take the place of personal witness and interaction, but it can certainly help people learn about our faith.
This book should be put in the hands of every diocesan communication director, parish administrator, faith formation director, and youth minister. Actually, everyone who works in a parish office should read it and decide how to use New Media to reach out and draw in.
This review was written as part of the Catholic book reviewer program from The Catholic Company. Visit The Catholic Company to find more information on The Church and New Media. They are also a great source for a Catechism of the Catholic Church or a Catholic Bible.

Installation Mass

2011-10-31T08:54:00.000-04:00

Yesterday was a wonderful day. My boss was officially installed as Pastor of St. Edward at the noon Mass with our Bishop presiding. It was especially fitting as it was Priesthood Sunday. The Bishop's homily was good, focusing on the care a pastor gives and sharing why he choose Msgr. Klinzing to be the pastor. Here's the story in the Shiny Sheet, our local paper.

Personally, I am absolutely thrilled that Msgr. Klinzing, or Fr. Tom (as he prefers) is back in a parish and as Pastor. Granted, there may be a bit of bias, since I am now working for him. Parishioners though seem to be quite positive that he is just what they need. I pray that we all continue to grow and work together as a faith community.

7 Quick Takes

2011-10-28T10:01:00.000-04:00

1. Big weekend coming up starting with picking up our son's girlfriend tonight and ending with my boss being installed as pastor on Sunday. In between a friend is coming down from Orlando for Sunday's event but we'll spend Saturday night with him. Saturday night a group of friends are coming over the house for Praise & Worship. It will be a small group, maybe twenty people and a time to gather and sing and pray as a community. Our song leader plays the guitar and we may also have a keyboard,bass and flute players. No matter who is there to help lead us, we life our voices in song and prayer, confident that we are heard. Then we have snacks and wine.
2. I joined Pinterest. I am afraid, very afraid. If you think Facebook or blogs or twitter could be a total time sucker, forget about the possibility of this for a person who loves to sew and craft. I practically drool when see some of the projects. I am planning a craft party for the next weekend John goes to seminary.
3. I am so excited to start another run on the HcG diet this weekend. Excited about a diet you say? Of course, the first two days are gorge days! After that, not so much. But it works and it is for three weeks. John and I will do it together and another friend of ours is doing it as well.
4. I have almost set the dates for my Australia trip. It will be in the beginning of January for two weeks. I will meet our daughter in Sydney and then, well, right now there is no "and then". So, any ideas for places to visit and things to do over there are welcome. I do know I want to go to the Sydney Opera House for a show. Elisa thinks we will stay in hostels, but I'm not so sure yet. I am beyond excited, I am euphoric just planning this trip. (so much so that I mention it every quick take:)
5. I watched a DVD on the Mass called Come and See from Loyola Press to get for ready for Faith&Fun in a few weeks. Wow, have DVD's improved since the last time I was responsible for teaching children. We'll use the DVD as a springboard for conversation and explanation of the Roman Missal changes. If you need info for children, I suggest Joe Paprocki's blog, Catechist's Journey.
6. I have never prayed this particular novena, but I am told it is most efficacious. Our Lady, Untier of Knots. I think I am going to pray it for a couple we are praying for who will attend a marriage preparation retreat next weekend. Not to untie their upcoming marriage knot, but to make sure anything that could get in the way is taken care of so they can go with open hearts and minds.
7. Wednesday night was Wives Night at the seminary. It was very good, especially our speaker who is a very good friend. I was so proud of her and the other ladies enjoyed her talk. Her main focus was that there is no one way to be a deacon's wife. Most important was to be a person of prayer and realize that people will judge no matter what you do or how you look. The focus is to be a good disciple. She talked about our book group and showed many of the books we have read. We prayed evening prayer and then had an open forum to ask questions. A great night.

More Quick Takes at Conversion Diary.

7 Quick Takes

2011-10-21T10:24:00.000-04:00

More Quick Takes!

1. Fall has arrived in South Florida. My office windows are open to let in the fresh, cool air. I briefly considered pantyhose, but why? no one sees my legs, they are under the desk most of the time. I will be having lunch outside in the courtyard with a friend, just perfect.
2. My new job is amazing. The parishioners are very friendly and so pleased to have someone here to engage them in their faith journey. We have started our on-line program for grades 1-8, My Catholic Faith Delivered, using the faith and Life course. Confirmation will be taught by our pastor and have a sponsor component. I will start our first adult program in November, which is A Biblical Walk through the Mass by Edward Sri. We are a bit late in starting to educate the congregation on the Roman Missal changes, but I think it will all work out in the end.
3. Our daughter has found her new family to work for in January. She will move to Sydney, Australia after her Christmas holiday in Malaysia, Singapore and possibly Thailand. I am going to visit her in January, before she starts working so we can travel and be tourists. I am very excited that I can start planning now that we know where she will be. And, Skype is the best because we can see her and her new tattoo. Yes, another tattoo, a star behind her left ear.
4. My husband conquered a fear last weekend. Originally, the thought of preaching a homily was a bit intimidating. However, speaking is nothing compared to singing. At seminary he had to lector and then sing the Gospel Alleluia. And he did it! We found the tune on Youtube and he practiced and practiced. He said all went well until it was time for the verse. Ah well, progress, not perfection.
5. I am sure most Catholics in the know have seen and heard about Fr. Robert Barron. He is been on the outer bands of my radar. His website is unbelievable! Take a look at the Word of Fire and get to know more about his ministry. His EWTN series is also airing soon, but since I do not have TV I'll have to watch it some other way.
6. Our new book club book is Between Heaven and Mirth by Fr. James Martin. Here's a short clip of Fr. James talking about the book. (I can't get the video to embed in the post. Can you help?) We decided that a few of us have so much 'heaviness' in our life, that something light would be helpful. I am also reading "The Church and the New Media" by Brandon Vogt.
7. Here is a picture of my new office. If you want to see more, here is the entire post.

New Digs

2011-10-19T20:21:00.000-04:00

My new position has me constantly thanking God for his blessings. I truly feel like a different person, much more relaxed and calm. My new office is bigger than my bedroom! I took some pictures so you can see where I am every day. I usually have the verticals open, but to take the pictures I had to close them.
I know it's not all about a great new office or feeling wondrous at the possibilities or being so ecstatic that people notice. I feel I have been given a gift and I intend to use it to serve others. I am going to stop going on and on though, because a few of my friends can't take it anymore. (Wow, too many I's and my's.)

My office as you look in from the doorway. A door that people knock on before entering:)

Bookshelves and credenza, still working on it

Work area in one corner of the room,
Pink chair!

My desk, with chairs for visitors.
The window that lets in the sun and lets me see outside.

Courtyard where I can sit to work or have lunch.

Adjectives

2011-10-11T22:07:00.000-04:00

I am getting tired of my usual adjectives such as great and wonderful. Awesome sounds dated, cool shows my age, as does crack and bad. So what else is there to say? First, let me explain why I have this situation. I am so happy at my new job, people ask me how things are going and I say, "great" "wonderful." The lack of variety in my vocabulary is grating on me. So like a good geek, I looked up the words in the thesaurus and here are some possible new adjectives: admirable, best, dynamite, exceptional, fab, fantastic, fine, first-rate, good, hellacious, marvelous, masterly, number one, out of sight, out of this world, out-and-out, perfect, positive, super-duper, terrific, transcendent, tremendous, unmitigated, unqualified, wonderful, amazing, astonishing, astounding, awe-inspiring, brilliant, divine, enjoyable, excellent, fabulous, incredible, magnificent, miraculous, outstanding, peachy, phenomenal, pleasant, pleasing, prime, remarkable, sensational, something else, staggering, startling, strange, stupendous, super, superb, surprising, unheard-of, wondrous.
I do feel pretty amazing and think this might be the best job I have ever had. I hope I am awe-inspiring while having a hellacious good time with everyone. It seems like this excellent position came through divine intervention and it is a tremendous opportunity to work in such a pleasing environment. The church itself is stupendous, its' beauty almost staggering, with phenomenal stained glass windows and the awe-inspiring Sacred Heart altar. Our location is a prime real estate spot just a few minutes walk to the magnificent Atlantic ocean or the pleasant inter coastal. I can also walk to some superb restaurants with super service for lunch or grab a cup of coffee in the fine market next door.
Think I'll stop now, as I am really annoying myself. I think I like miraculous, divine and wondrous. Let's see how those work out for the next few days.

Scott Hahn Re-cap

2011-10-11T21:34:00.001-04:00

Last Saturday Scott Hahn was presenting at at church just north of us. It was well worth the trip. His first talk centered around the theme of covenant in the scripture and what the early Church Fathers had to say. St. Augustine says, "The New Testament is concealed in the Old Testament; the Old Testament is revealed in the New Testament." Hahn told us to read the New Testament in light of the Old Testament. Often times I think we forget to read the Old Testament, thinking perhaps that the Gospels are more important since they tell us about Jesus. But Jesus knew the Old Testament and referenced it frequently in his teaching. We also need to know it.
I was fascinated by his example of the parallels between Moses and Jesus.

Moses

Pharaoh wanted him dead

He had to leave flee into the desert

God called him to save his people

The rulers would not listen to him

Moses turned water into blood

Helped provide manna in the desert

Jesus

Herod wanted him dead

He went into the desert to prepare for his ministry
He came to save us

Many did not listen to him

Jesus turned water into wine and then wine into blood

Multiplication of the loaves and himself in the Eucharist

Then he spoke about the passover feast and John 6 (Bread of Life discourse)
For the passover to be complete one had to slaughter the lamb, shed its blood to expiate sins, and eat the lamb, so they would love. If, on the first passover, the Israelites did not do this, they would die. Jesus was crucified, his blood shed for our sins and when we eat his flesh and drink his blood in the Eucharist, we have eternal life.

Scott Hahn is so engaging as a speaker, very down to earth, not afraid to tell stories about himself to bring home a point. His knowledge is vast but I could also sense humility there and a person who loves God and the Church. If you ever have an opportunity to hear him speak, don't hesitate.

7 Quick Takes - It's All Good!

2011-10-07T11:01:00.001-04:00

For more Quick Takes click on through to Jen at Conversion Diary!

1. Week one at my new job has been wonderful! My office looks much better, my computer is all set up and working, sent a note to all the families registered for religious ed, I've spoken to some parents, and started making plans for children's liturgy and more.
2. Our primary delivery system for religious ed will be via an online program. We'll also meet once a month with all the children and youth for Faith and Fun! There will be food too.
3. I am carpooling now with my dear friend. She works on one side of the bridge and I work on the other. So, when she drives I'll take her car over to work and when I drive I will just drop her off. We are both excited, not only because it will save on gas and for me, help with my miles since I lease my car, but we will get to see each other almost every day and spend time together. That is the best part.
4. Tomorrow my husband and I are going to hear Scott Hahn speak at St. Joseph in Stuart. We have heard him before and are looking forward to hearing him again. It will also be nice to spend some time together. Then, we have a dinner to attend for the community of Guadalupan sisters who serve in our parish.
5. I was interviewed by the local paper here on Palm Beach, Palm Beach Daily News, The Shiny Sheet. The article is not up as I write this, but the reporter said it would be there today. I didn't realize I was being interviewed until a few minutes into the conversation so I hope I said the right things. She also wanted a picture, but I had nothing. Thankfully, our parish secretary was able to take a photo with her phone and send it. I say thankfully, but since I haven't seen the picture in print, maybe I won't be thankful. Oh well, it is what it is.
6. As I have been working this week I realize how much I love to plan. For me the possibilities are so much fun to consider. The fact that I am back working in faith formation is very uplifting. I can't wait to meet the families next week and start to get to know everyone.
7. I meant to take a picture of my window, which I sit facing as I type, but I forgot my camera. It really isn't a very special window, but I see the sky, trees swaying in the breeze, every now and again a person walks down the street. When I get here in the morning I open the verticals to let the sunshine in so my plants will grow. I know it's just a window, but it is the best part of my office. Maybe. It's all so good.
Peace and Pumpkins to you all!

Book Review: Becoming:The Woman God Made You to Be

2011-10-05T18:39:00.001-04:00

Reading books is one of my favorite things to do. Dreaming about writing a book is my second favorite thing to do. I wish I had written this book! Becoming: The Woman God Made You to Be by Tammy Evevard is one of the best books for women I have ever read. Tammy is so real and genuine, her personality comes through and I wish I could have coffee with her. I'd buy and bring the biscotti! The examples and stories she uses are so refreshingly honest. She quotes some of my favorite people/authors: Mother Theresa, Henri Nouwen, and C.S.Lewis to name a few. There are eleven chapters running the gamut from "Beloved" to "I Hate Kids," each one another step toward wholly allowing yourself to become the woman God made you to be.

I marked quite a few lines in the book, but this one sums up what Tammy is saying, "It's time to stop playing it safe and start taking risks. Worry less about what people think and more about what God thinks. Don't try to be who you're not. Be yourself. Laugh at yourself. Quit holding out. Quit holding back. Quit running away. Chase the lion" (102). The final chapter of twenty five things Tammy has learned in life go from lipstick to heroes to shoes to paint; every item on the list spoke to me.

I already have a short list of people to give this book, my daughter being #1. If you have ever believed that you were "less than," bought into the lies of the "isms" in the world or just wondered exactly why God made you, give yourself the gift of this book. You will not regret it.

This review was written as part of the Catholic book reviewer program from The Catholic Company. Visit The Catholic Company to find more information on Becoming: The Woman God Made You to Be. They are also a great source for a Catechism of the Catholic Church or a Catholic Bible.

Cleaning out your office

2011-09-29T08:20:00.000-04:00

I said I was going to write a book about how to leave your office when you leave a job, but not sure I would have enough material. Of course if I told all the horror stories of all my past move in's to new offices, I could fill many pages. These tips are in no particular order, but all are necessary and important, no joking.
-All personal items should be removed. Not sure what I mean by personal, try this, anything you use to groom yourself or that you would not share with others need to go.
-Books that belong to you, especially any with notes and/or answers in them that you would not want anyone else to read or take out of context.
-Take all the pictures, presents, cute sticky notes on your computer and either toss them or take them.
- Go through your paper files and purge extra copies; old, outdated handouts; anything that was typed or printed on a dot matrix printer; fax receipts; if you want to be really nice put the items in the file in date order, newest on top. Take with you anything pertaining to you personally such as employment records, pension and health benefit info.
-Go through computer files and delete personal folders, document drafts, old letters and memos that are useless. I like to organize things by year and then put items in the year file once the year is over. This way there is a record of what was done. I did not need to keep all the versions of a doc or publication, so I keep only a final copy.
-Make a folder of current open projects and give it to your boss. Also give him/her a list of passwords for work related websites. I was responsible for quite a few and whoever takes over my job will need to access the same info.
-Cancel and/or turn in any company credit cards, keys and email accounts.
-Throw away junk! It isn't fair to expect the new person to clean up after you.
-Return borrowed items to rightful owners.
-Leave new contact info for yourself.
- When you leave your office, let it be as blank a slate as possible so the next person can make it her/his own.
-Don't take things which don't belong to you! If you bought things with company money so you could do your job, they belong to the company, not you.
So, now you have done all of this and are ready to go. You show up at your new office and much to your surprise you find....
EXACTLY, someone who thought cleaning out her office meant taking her purse with her when she left for the last time!

25 Years Old

2011-09-26T23:27:00.000-04:00

Today is our son's 25th birthday. The day we became parents and were forever humbled. First of all, he was late, very late. And it was hot, very hot and very humid as only September is in South Florida. My feet could only get into these awful flip flops which my mom threw in the garbage when we got into the hospital. I had to be induced and when the nurses eyed my very pregnant belly, they were surprised I was there to be induced as the baby hadn't even dropped yet. As I was being hooked up to IVs and monitors and who knows what else, one said ever so sweetly, "Well, this will probably take two days. We'll give you meds to get you going, then stop so you can rest and sleep and then tomorrow you'll have the baby." "No, I am having this baby today." And I did, at 5 pm Peter came into this world with a little cone head and blue eyes. There are lots of details which I will spare you, though I will say that if my mother had not been there watching Peter's exit and not yelled at the doctor that the baby was coming, there may have been a different ending to this story.
I find it amazing that he is 25, it seems like such a short time ago I walked into that hospital willing myself to give birth.
I am so proud of the man he has become. And still, all these years later, when his blue eyes look into mine, there is such joy and happiness. Just like 25 years ago!

Book Review: Becoming

2011-09-26T23:04:00.000-04:00

I am very excited that I have chosen this book to review. Best case scenario it arrives while I have time off so I can read it right away. Whenever it gets here, I'll be happy.

Thinking about the changes

2011-09-19T20:24:00.001-04:00

So, in 2 weeks I will have a new job, Director of Faith Formation. There will be lots and lots of changes. I've been making a list in my mind:
1. I will have a much bigger office with windows and a door
2. I will probably lose my Spanish speaking skills as there will be no one with whom to speak Spanish
3. the office is quiet, which is nice
4. no one will make espresso at 3 in the afternoon anymore, bummer
5. smaller parish, maybe close to 3,000 families less
6. longer commute
7. I can walk 2 blocks east to the ocean or 3 west to the intercostal from my new office
8. I am going back to my first love, people and helping to lead them to a close, meaningful, personal relationship with Jesus and our Church
9. I will plan retreats again, very exciting
10. I will miss knowing who to call when I need some help in the parish

In some ways I am getting the best of two parishes. I will work in one where there is much to do, learn about and grow professionally in a new direction. Then I will worship in one where I know the people and priests and feel very much at home. Big changes, all for the good!

7 Quick Takes

2011-09-16T09:36:00.000-04:00

More Quick Takes are right here!

1. I have been off from work this week. I haven't done very much at all around the house, just a few things I wanted to do. I spent time with friends, rested, went to Adoration, read, and let my mind wander wherever it wanted to go. Today I am meeting a friend for lunch and will prepare my husband's birthday dinner for tomorrow.
2. Tomorrow will be a busy day. Seven men are being ordained to the permanent diaconate for our diocese. I never tire of going to celebrate an ordination. This is the first group since my husband has been in formation that I spent time with and got to know, so I am looking forward to it very much.
3. It is also my husband's birthday tomorrow. He decided on lasagna and meatballs for his dinner, so I started cooking last night. I made the sauce already and today I'll prepare the lasagna and meatballs. I haven't made sauce in forever but his taste test last night says it just needs more salt, so that's good.
4. I have a new job! I am going back to faith formation in a different parish. The good thing is that I am not leaving our parish so I will still be a part of a great community. I am also going to be working again with my former pastor. Selfishly, this is all looks just about perfect for me. I hope a replacement can be found for me quickly and the transition goes smoothly. I keep praying and looking to God's guidance.
5. Monday we are going back to our Hcg diet. It is a homeopathic drop, rather than injections. The diet is very simple to follow and very low in calories. It makes grocery shopping and meal planning easy, but going out difficult. It is easier with both my husband and I doing it together. Best of all, it works and I am not seeing weight gain when I go off of it. I look at it as short term discomfort for long time gain, no loss, well, you get what I am saying.
6. The parish ministry fair last weekend went very well. The Family Feud game was a big hit, staff won over the clergy and I could see the game show being the main reason to get together. A parishioner found an on line version of the game that allowed you to input your own questions and answers and that really made a difference. It was very realistic, sound effects and all.
7. Some major changes are going on in my external and internal life. I am in awe as always of God's hand leading and guiding me. I feel I am working with myself instead of against myself. And I keep praying for the grace to walk the walk.

Book Review: Francis: The Journey and the Dream

2011-09-15T15:39:00.000-04:00

I love St. Francis. I was raised in a Franciscan parish in New York and went to St. Frances Prep high school which was run by Franciscan brothers. One of my favorite movies is Brother Sun, Sister Moon and we played the music from that movie in the folk group.  This book was actaully written with the intention of it being published at the same time as the moive was released. So, with great anticipation I choose this book from the Catholic Company reviewer program. I was not disappointed.
This is the fortieth anniversary edition of the original written by Murray Bodo, O.F.M., a Franciscan priest. It is a wonderful little book, powerfully yet simply written with so much to think about on every page. I read it from cover to cover, but you could pick it up and read any one of the seventy-seven short chapters as part of your daily prayer time.
The book is not overtly biographical, but you will learn about St. Francis as you read. The book opens as Francis lays dying, pains "beginning to dull his senses, and he slowly slipped back into his memories of the past..." (pg 3).  Through the words of Fr. Bodo we follow Francis as he tells about his dream, his desire to live out the Gospel by embracing Lady Poverty and leading others to do the same.
I know I will be going back to this book again and again for the truth it contains and how it shines light onto my thoughts.  One of the chapters that struck me is titled The Journey and The Dream. In it, Francis recalls how Jesus had sent him the Dream and made the Journey possible and sustained him with the Eucharist. "The Bread of Life had sustained him on his Journey and the presence of Jesus kept the Dream alive" (pg 180). There are other images from that chapter which have stayed with me, but instead of telling you, I encourage you to get a copy of this book. It would also make a great gift for everyone!

Visit The Catholic Company to find more information on Francis - The Journey and the Dream. They are also a great source for a Catechism of the Catholic Church or a Catholic Bible.

Change - it's time now

2011-09-12T09:10:00.000-04:00

Courage
Hope
Adventure
New
Growth
Excellent

Family Feud

2011-09-05T20:48:00.000-04:00

Next weekend we are having a big ministry fair at church. The theme is "Holywood Studios" and to get people excited we are going to play Family Feud. So, this weekend we handed out survey questions before each Mass and asked people to fill them out.
I learned some very interesting things and thought I'd make a list so you could have a little chuckle as well.
1. Name a mystery of the Rosary - the mysterious one.
2. Most popular Sunday Mass time at St. Peter - Christmas
3. Favorite Old Testament book is Revelation, Matthew, Mark, Luke and John.
4. Name one of the seven deadly sins - murder.
I suggested to our religious education director that we use some of the answer as the basis for what to focus on for catechises.
There's more funny stuff, but I can't give it all away since some players may read this and get inside info to help them win. Not that we are giving away money or anything of value, except maybe some indulgences.
First game is clergy vs staff. I wonder who will win?

7 Quick Takes

2011-08-26T10:57:00.000-04:00

1. This weekend there is a Rachel's Vineyard retreat in our diocese. This retreat amazes me. Briefly, it's purpose is to bring healing to those who have had their baby aborted. You can find out more at Rachel's Vineyard Ministries. When it first began, I was in charge of the kitchen for the retreats. I did not have much interaction with the retreatants but would greet them upon arrival and then go cook. When they first arrived the level of pain and discomfort was apparent in the way they carried themselves and avoided making eye contact for more than a few seconds. By the end of the weekend, the joy was so beautiful to see on their faces. I don't cook for the group any more, but I do pray. So, tonight and tomorrow I will make my way to the chapel, sit with Jesus in Adoration and pray for those on the retreat. Please pray where you are too.
2. It is seminary weekend! I have some fun planned as well as some items to get off my to-do list. Fun includes seeing friends, finish wall hanging quilt ,and fabric shopping. To-do list is longer, , send a package to our daughter in Australia, clean my office at home, laundry, grocery shopping and work on Sunday. Ugh, way to many to dos! Anybody want to come and help me?
3. We celebrated August birthdays in the office the other day. All were men; ages 33, 45, 53. So, sometimes the boss, aka our pastor, asks the question what were you doing when you were xx years old. Since most of us were working there at 45, a few of us not yet 53, he asked about 33. I was 33 in 1997 (47, I'll save you the math) and could not specifically recall what I was doing. In general, I knew I was going to basketball games, scout meetings, involved in religious ed at my parish and all the other things parents do when their children are 10 and 8. I couldn't remember where I worked so I looked it up on my resume. I was teaching, but I don't know what or where. At first this disturbed me, but then I realized it didn't matter. I was mainly being a mom, which I miss now.
4. Today's readings include the parable of the wise and foolish virgins. A reminder that though we may think we see signs all around us of doom and gloom and the end of the world is coming, "Therefore, stay awake, for you know neither the day nor the hour." Mt 25:13b
5. There is a conference going on in Houston this weekend about using all the new media for the evangelization of the Church. I love their tag line, One Gospel, Many Channels! Check it out!
6. I have to write a brief testimony as to why I go to Adoration and present it at Mass this weekend. It is part of our campaign to have Adoration every Friday instead of just once a month. I really want to stress the peace I receive as the most important reason I go, but I don't want Adoration to sound boring. I think I will pray and write about it while I am in Adoration, good plan, no?
7. Hurricane Irene is heading to New York. My mom called for advice. She and my dad have different opinions as to what should be done. So, I am sending a list. Hopefully this will help my father understand that tying chairs together is not a good plan; bringing them inside is the way to go.

More Quick Takes at Conversion Diary!

Retraction

2011-08-24T20:10:00.000-04:00

On Monday I posted this; I was wrong. I forgot that my husband was starting school again! He is taking Sacraments, Theology of Preaching and something else this semester. Sacraments is Wednesday night and the other two are on the weekend. We bought school supplies too, notebooks for a penny each. He bought six and says they will last him until he finishes seminary. At least I think that is what he said; clearly I am having recall issues! At any rate, I'm retracting the statement that no one started back to school. The thoughts and feelings though still stand.
So, I worked late, ran an errand and then had dinner all by myself. The house is quiet and I have plenty of things to do, but I just feel like sitting and enjoying the lack of activity and noise. Of course, that's if I can get the voices in my head to stop. I have some writing to do for a brief (2 minutes) talk on Adoration for Sunday and an almost finished wall hanging calling out to me.
These last few days it seems as if solitude has become very important to me. Considering I am an extrovert in the extreme, I'm not sure what is going on but I am accepting this need and catering to it when I can. So, I'm going to be alone now. See you soon.

nook

2011-08-23T22:53:00.001-04:00

I really like my new toy. It has been quite some time since I had a new toy. I like reading on it. I like using the apps on it. I like posting to Facebook from it. My daughter is very disappointed in me. She says I have gone over to the 'dark side' and she is not pleased.

Let me first review the apps I like: Evernote, Fliq Calendar and Conqu. Evernote is what I use on my computer and now can use it anywhere. If I happen to be in a wi-fi area, then it syncs automatically, if not, it syncs later. Love that feature. I am still learning about how to best use Evernote, though the little I have done has been helpful. The Fliq calendar is very basic; displays by month, week or day plus a list of all upcoming events. I rarely use that last feature, since it is slightly overwhelming to see it all at the same time. I just added Conqu today, but I've already started my list of things to do.

Of course, I also read on my nook. It is back lit so I can read in bed in the dark. This is, of course, every bibliophile's dream come true. It's probably a good thing this was not around when I was a child.

I can borrow books from the library using my nook too. The odd thing is that they have a limited number of copies they can loan this way. I understand that when you are dealing with bound books, but why with electronic ones? You can reserve books and then you receive an email and download the book. No late fees with this system. The book is pulled through cyberspace right back on its due date.

So, with all these benefits, why does my daughter say it's the 'dark side?' She says the beauty of a book is feeling the weight in your hands, opening it for the first time and getting the new book smell. I can see her

point, but then I reminded her that all of her favorite books are sitting in her bookcase, while she is sitting in Perth. If she had a nook, they could all be with her!

Matt Maher -Adoration

2011-08-22T20:02:00.000-04:00

Back to school, so what?

2011-08-22T19:59:00.000-04:00

Today was back to school for many, but not anyone in my house. I pondered this and realized that since 1963 one of us has always started school on the first day of school. For the record, I didn't start school in '63. Even when I graduated college, I started school because I was a teacher. Then, we had children, who started school every first day. Some years, we all started back to school together.

It is bittersweet, for certain, this no new start. I always liked cleaning and packing up at the end of the year and then starting fresh at the beginning. There was a defined time to purge the old and bring in the new. Now, I work all year round (like a grown up, ick) and I know I can clean my files, bookcases, and desk whenever I want but it's not the same as everyone doing it together.

It is also a very real reminder that raising my family is over. Of course, I can follow in my mother's footsteps and obsessively worry about my young adults, but I choose not to, mainly because it causes wrinkles. Even now, my mom's first words to me after hello when I call her usually are "What's wrong?" So, I try not to worry. I am in transition, even though no one has lived here at home full time for the past four years, this empty nest takes getting accustomed to for many reasons. Sometimes it feels just right and other times I am baffled at how quiet things are and how tidy the house stays.

I like change when I have a plan as to where and what, this time there is no plan. I am waiting on God to reveal it to me. I suppose I could say I'm in his school, waiting to be shown to class.

7 Quick Takes

2011-08-19T12:57:00.000-04:00

More Quick takes over here!

Not sure if I'll get to 7, but here we go!
1. I had the best day off yesterday. I went to Orlando and visited Jesus, Ikea, Millennium Mall;spent most of the day with a friend who is like a second dad to me. We went to Mass together, had lunch and talked and talked about everything. And, my phone did not ring, not once to interrupt anything I was doing. We spent part of the day at Our Lady Queen of the Universe Basilica. If you are ever in Orlando, maybe to visit the mouse, it's a great place to attend Mass.
2. Too many meetings this week at work, three nights in a row and then Wednesday was a major staff meeting, 3 hours long. UGH! It's no wonder I enjoyed the solitude on my drive yesterday. This week, no meetings at night, plus seminary begins with class on Wednesday and the weekend. Not hat I won't miss my husband, but I want to finish a few projects and this will give me some time.
3. Our Thursday morning group is starting a new book next week, Man's Search for Meaning by Viktor Frankl. I've read it before but it's been a few years, so I am looking forward to it. Plus, we always have great discussions.
4. Did you miss me? I took a little break for lunch.
5. I had to follow my friend for one part of my travels yesterday. If you are ever in Orlando, I can save you all the money you would spend on getting into Disney. Just follow my friend for about five miles and you will feel like you've been on Mr. Toad's Wild Ride, Teacups, and Aladdin's Magic Carpet ride all in one! I am NOT exaggerating. No turn signals, getting all the way over to the left on I-4 and then all the way to the right to exit, squeezing in between cars, and did I mention no turn signals. Yes, well, it bears repeating.
6. When something happens I think my daughter would fine interesting or I have a question to ask her, I still think for a fleeting second, "let me call Elisa." Then I remember that she is in Australia and I can't call her. I hope to have a skype date with her tonight. Of course, by then, I will have forgotten everything I wanted to tell her about.
7. Morning mass was celebrated today by one of my favorite priests. To summarize the readings and his homily, it's all about loving God and one another. I wonder what would happen if we all followed that mandate?

7 Quick Takes

2011-08-05T10:10:00.000-04:00

1. This morning at Mass this verse just jumped out at me: "This is why you must now know, and fix in your heart, that the LORD is God in the heavens above and on earth below, and that there is no other." Deut 4:39. Truly, God is in heaven and on earth; God is God and we are not. Good little reminder.
2. Since it is First Friday, here is a video of Adoration quotes with pictures and music. Very beautiful.
3. If you are interested in improving your blog, and writing in general take a look at some tips from Michael Leach at Why Stay Catholic.
4. I have found a few new blogs, The Deacon's Wife, which is a slight misnomer she her husband has just been accepted into formation, but interesting nonetheless. I like reading and hearing about things are doing in other dioceses in regard to almost everything, but especially the things I am also involved in personally. A Penny Saved has realistic tips on saving money. Most money saving tips blogs and articles are not very helpful to me, so finding one that actually seemed realistic was great! The tips I've looked at so far are things I actually do or would consider doing. Last one, Imprisoned in my Bones, why? she reminds me of myself and I love her blog title!

Virtual Tour

5. Today the Optional Memorial for Mass is the Dedication of St. Mary Major in Rome. This basilica was built under Pope Sixtus III (432-440). It is one of the seven papal basilicas in Rome and each year the Pope celebrated the Feast of the Assumption of Blessed Virgin Mary, August 15.
6. I have invites to Google+, so if you'd like one, let me know.
7. I'm excited that my husband has decided to join me in the weight loss adventure. He is always supportive, but now that I have someone ~~suffering~~ doing it at the same time as me in the same house, it makes it ~~so much~~ better.

Go over and visit Jen at Conversion Diary for more!

In Another's Words

2011-08-03T16:48:00.000-04:00

Sharing in the Nature of God
We share in the nature of God when we struggle to make our homes happy homes, when we make sacrifices for the good of others, even and perhaps especially when the others really get on our nerves. — from Love in the Little Things

Retreat Reflection Report

2011-08-02T12:40:00.000-04:00

We had a wonderful formation retreat at Our Lady of Florida. The retreat leader was Deacon Alfred from Atlanta and he was a delight. A master storyteller, he wove together the scriptures, life experiences and questions to discuss in a unique and engaging style. We had time for group discussions both with and without our husbands.
The new class has five men in it, so now there are sixteen men enrolled in our diocese's formation program.
The Marian prayer service on Saturday evening was beautiful. It was amazing how each reflection built on the other and in intensity; there was a cohesiveness due to the Holy Spirit working in each of us, since none of us had spoken to each other about the reflection at all. I had some difficulty getting through the middle part of my reflection, but in the end, it all came together. It was divinely inspired and helped me to heal a bit.
As always after a retreat, coming back to the real world is difficult. So, I bought a NOOK to distract myself.

Sharing (food, that is)

2011-08-02T11:51:00.000-04:00

I've noticed something about myself this week. I am not sharing like I usually do. Why? Well, I am on a very calorie restricted diet, so while I normally would say, "would you like a piece of apple or some strawberries?" I just can't do it. In my head I think, I don't get much to eat and so I am eating all of this, no sharing at all. Is this right? Or am I being selfish? Or am I obsessing over something which I really need to put to rest? I'm obsessing. Probably need to let it go. Besides, if someone really needed the food I would give it to them. Okay, I'm over it, I ma doing this to take care of myself, which is a good thing. Right? Sure, it is!

7 Quick Takes

2011-07-29T15:48:00.000-04:00

All today's Quick Takes are over at Conversion Diary!

1. I helped set a mouse trap with peanut butter. It's not for my house, but I am loathe to tell you where it is going.
2. What is Pinterest? What is the purpose? More importantly, should I join?
3. I have been skyping with Elisa in Australia. The other night we had a group conversation with the two of us and another friend. Fun! The reception was better with Elisa way over in Australia than with our friend who lives in Florida.
4. I've joined Google+ but am insure as to why at this point. I see potential though.
5. Feast day of St. Martha today. According to the homily this morning she is a reminder to balance contemplation and action. So, this weekend I am slowing down on the action and working on contemplation.
6. Yesterday's dinner was sauteed chicken breasts with zucchini ribbons. When I was done I started to wash the mandolin I had used to slice the zucchini and sliced my middle finger on my right hand. However, this got me out of doing the rest of the dishes:). Then I walked over to my friend's house with the dinner and was rewarded with a bang trim, which was sorely needed. She said she got the better part of the deal since she was going to have my cooking for dinner. I am so glad we all different gifts.
7. Tuesday we went to Wet and Wild with my brother's family. We had a blast! I even convinced my husband to go on a ride. I miss that sort of thing now that our children are adults.

Reflection Delimma Solved

2011-07-28T13:18:00.001-04:00

I wonder what Mary thought about the gifts – odd for a baby – but not the Savior of the world. Did Mary know what they foretold or did she just accept them graciously while trying to make some sense of them. We look and say, of course, gold for a king, frankincense a sign of his divinity, and myrrh a foreshadowing of his suffering.

What did Mary do with the gifts? Were they sold so the family could live in Egypt? Or saved until Jesus began his public ministry and then given to him as a mother’s blessing?

Before we are told why in scriptures the climate of joy at Jesus’ birth changes to one of distress. Mary and Joseph must take Jesus and flee into Egypt to avoid Herod. The family is strangers in the land that was once the home of Israel. God frequently calls people to another place. He does this to give us a new opportunity or chance to change. The Holy Family had an opportunity to live without fear of Herod’s persecution. So they stayed in Egypt until it was safe to return home to Nazareth.

All of this occurred because of Mary and Joseph’s multiple yeses to God.

So, of course, I wonder, what has happened in my life because of my yeses to God? Some of this may resonate with you and some may not. All of it comes from my deep faith and belief that God has a plan; that we are here in this place and this time, together – as a people who have said yes and agreed to cooperate with God’s plan for our good.

What have I said yes to – believing after prayer and discernment that it is God’s will for my life?

I am married to John for almost 28 years. Our love for each other has been tested, but it is true and real and sustains us both. We have two wonderful children who are currently living out their dreams. They bring us joy and give us hope. I am able to live out my vocation of service to the Church by working in a parish as my profession. My ministry provides laughter, tears, happiness, contentment, frustration, peace, disbelief, amazement and wonder. My favorite times are when I have the privilege of walking with people on their faith journey and watching God work in people’s lives.

Sometimes though a yes can bring sadness. Six years ago a new friend walked into the Mom’s group at St. Peter. We did not have a lot in common at first glance but shared a deep faith and love of family. Two years later she was diagnosed with ovarian cancer. We began a journey together into exile; many of us willingly went with her and her family. We all did it out of love. Just six weeks ago she died. Would I have said yes to her friendship if I had known the whole story? Without a moment’s hesitation I would do it all again.

I believe that Mary would have said yes if she knew the whole story as well. Her yes was a gift not only to all of us, but to herself. I’m not speaking here about theological reasons such as being born without original sin or being the Queen of Heaven. I am talking about given the opportunity to love so fully and completely that it is always about the other.

This is what her yes does – it shows me how much to love. She loved and trusted God enough to listen and obey; to be the first disciple and be responsible for God’s son. It makes what I am asked to do seem simple by comparison. I always keep in mind though that Mary had a supernatural grace and lack of sin.

I know, that in all our lives, we have gone to Egypt and then been called to the place God has planned for us if we are willing to say yes. It is part of life for people of faith. I pray, that like Mary, we all continue to say yes to God and grow in holiness.

Reflection Dilemma

2011-07-27T17:30:00.000-04:00

Here it is late Wednesday and I have yet to write my reflection for Saturday afternoon's prayer service for the formation retreat. To explain, my husband is studying to become a deacon and once a year there is a retreat for husbands and wives. I received this assignment a month ago. The scripture I am asked to reflect on is Matthew 2:9-15, which is the Visit of the Magi and The Flight into Egypt. Everything I write is so sad. I have prayed and read and thought and wrote and started all over again, and all I get is sad. I sound like being a parent is the most awful thing and all your kids do is rip your heart out when they grow up. That being a friend leads to pain and suffering. I can't seem to get to a place where I tell about the joy of saying yes to God; how he provides and guides and loves those who say yes. I would be lying to say that my friend's death did not have impact on my life. But I spend time thinking about our friendship I remember the happy and sad times. And certainly, as a parent, I don't remember a time when both of our children seemed to be so exactly in the right place.
Mary's yes led her to a beautiful journey of fulfillment not only for her but for all of us whom Jesus saved. I want to capture both the struggles and the joys of being a parent. But most importantly I want to convey the satisfaction of saying yes to God.

It's back to praying, reading, thinking and writing for me tonight. I'll let you know what happens! Pray for me please.

Peeling Peaches

2011-07-25T19:45:00.000-04:00

Peaches, ripe and juicy, are a joy of summer. The last few summers have been disappointing, peach wise. But yesterday I found myself staring at peaches begging to be made into cobbler. So, I choose five and began to peel them by first putting them in boiling water, then waiting for them to cool before I separated the skin from the flesh of each peach. My knife pierced the skin and I cleanly lifted it off each peach, except one. Why? Because it was still a bit unripe and so it was more difficult to peel.
I started to think that was similar to people and peeling back our protective skin on our soul. If we try to make changes in our life before we are ready, it is difficult and you may take away flesh along with skin. This can cause pain, bleeding, and leave a scar.
That is why when we need to make changes in our lives, we need to be ripe for the change. And how does that happen? I think God prepares us through prayer, confession, Eucharist, service and other people. Once we are prepared, and God has led us to the next place, the peeling off of the skin is easy. We separate from whatever we were holding onto and move closer to God's will and His plan for our lives. What we become is always better than before, just like the peaches taste even better as cobbler.
I'll leave you with the peach cobbler recipe.
Peaches, peeled and sliced, enough to fit in a 2 qt baking dish (I use a round pyrex bowl)
1 stick butter,
3/4 cup brown sugar
3/4 cup oatmeal
1/2 cup flour
ginger and cinnamon

Put peaches in baking dish, toss with ginger and cinnamon
Melt butter, add sugar, oatmeal, flour and spices
cover peaches with topping
bake at 350 for 35 minutes

Whipped cream or ice cream are optional, personally, the cobbler was perfect warm out of the oven with nothing else added.

Now, I have no recipe for improving your soul, but I will say to be persistent, gentle and wait on God - he'll give you your perfect recipe!

Google +

2011-07-20T13:28:00.000-04:00

Interesting, find out a bit about Google+.

Mom or not?

2011-07-18T23:58:00.000-04:00

This post, The Mission of Older Moms, at Faith & Family Live is taking up a huge amount of space in my brain. I can't stop thinking about it. Granted, I've been thinking about what kind of a mom I am more than usual given my recent change in mom circumstances. I am not an "older" mom, I mean, hey, 50 is approaching, but not for a couple of years. I had my children when I was young and now find myself with adult children, who live far away. Most of my friends, even my own siblings, have young children though we are all very close in age. And by young, I am talking about elementary school age.
It seems every time I meet new people there is surprise on their faces when I tell them my children are adults.
But that is really beside the point. The point is, now I have one less role to define myself with and frankly, I feel a bit empty. And surprised. Logically I know I am still a mom, just like my mom is still a mom, even though her youngest is 41.
I mistakenly thought that having a career would be a protective factor in not feeling this way. I thought I would just involve myself more fully in my work and be more productive. It's not happening according to plan at this point. I am no longer the mom who has children, I have adults and it is so different from having children. What will fill this space now? I am waiting on the next sign from God, but if anyone has any ideas, I am open.

A Week in the Life of a Priest

2011-07-17T11:28:00.000-04:00

Sunday Snippets

2011-07-17T09:56:00.000-04:00

Take a look at some new blog posts from the Catholic blogsphere at This, That and the Other Thing.

Last Holy Communion

2011-07-12T22:53:00.000-04:00

Some stories must be told. This is one of those stories. On Friday, June 3 I had the 6 am shift to be with Diane in Hospice. I got there and S told me it had been a rough night. She got her things together and then left to get ready for her day, which included two important appointments.
Diane kept waking up from a fitful sleep to throw up. At one point she fell asleep on my shoulder as I was propping her up and trying to hold the the bucket without making a mess.
She fell asleep and I prayed the Divine Mercy Chaplet. She woke up and was in pain, was given some more medicine and dozed on and off. By now it was almost 9 am and T came to replace me so I could go to work.
I collected my things, kissed Diane goodbye with an "I love you and see you later." Just outside the hospice doors, there was S, walking quickly my way. She had gone to morning Mass and had brought back communion and wanted me to give Diane communion. So, back we go. The nurse was in the room and I ask her if I can give the host to Diane. "If she wants it, you can try." Diane opens her eyes and we ask her, she nods yes. I take the pyx from S, it has a picture of Padre Pio on it (more on this later), open it and realize I can only give Diane a very small piece. I place the pyx on a makeshift altar S has set up and remove the Host. I break it in half and think, "I am breaking Jesus, he was broken for us, Diane is broken, but this will help her heal." I break off the tiniest piece I can and place it in Diane's mouth. She holds it there for a very long time as all of us pray until she swallows.
I leave again with S. She tells me how she decided to come to the hospital. Her appointments were cancelled and since it was First Friday she really wanted to go to Mass. While there she had this overwhelming desire to bring the Eucharist back for Diane, but she did not have a pyx. So, she asked our friend if he had something she could use and he gives her a pyx he has that he bought to bring his mother, who was dying of cancer, Communion, but never did because she died before he could to so. So, she rushed back hoping I would still be there to give her Communion. I am still not sure why S wanted me to do this, since she is also an Extraordianry Minister of Holy Communion. I remember her saying, "you need to do it, I can't."
I have thought about this whole thing for over a month now and each time I am more and more amazed. It was a gift, not only for Diane, but for me, S, T and even our friend who loaned S the pyx. All of us were very close to Diane and we were able to share a beautiful moment with her. And to see the Body of Christ in a new light.
As an Extraordinary Minister it has always been meaningful when I have given communion to adults and children who are receiving just after their first communion. But this time, I was able to give someone Jesus for the last time. And not just someone, my dear friend, my sister in all ways but birth.

Making Sapce for God

2011-07-11T22:22:00.000-04:00

The Father knocks at my door seeking a home for his son.

Rent is cheap, I say

I don’t want to rent, I want to buy, says God.

I’m not sure I want to sell,

but you might come in to look around.

I think I will, says God.

I might let you have a room or two.

I like it, says God. I'll take the two.

You might decide to give me more some day.

I can wait, says God.

I’d like to give you more, but it’s a bit difficult;

I need some space for me.

I know, says God, but I’ll wait. I like what I see.

Hmm, maybe I can let you have another room.

I really don’t need that much.

Thanks, says God. I'll take it. I like what I see.

I’d like to give you the whole house

but I’m not sure -

Think on it, says God. I wouldn’t put you out.

Your house would be mine and my son would live in it.

You’d have more space than you’d ever had before.

I don’t understand at all.

I know, says God, but I can’t tell you about that.

You’ll have to discover it for yourself.

That can only happen if you let them have the whole house.

A bit risky, I say.

Yes, says God, but try me.

I’m not sure -- I’ll let you know.

I can wait, says God. I like what I see.

by Margaret Halaska, O.S.F.

St. Ignatius Loyola

2011-07-06T20:30:00.000-04:00

I am reading a biography of St. Ignatius Loyola and learning all sorts of things about him. He was sickly all his life, yet persisted in living a life of poverty eventhough his health could have been improved if he'd chosen otherwise. He did penance for many sinners and many converted their lives of sin because of his example. In many pictures, he is dressed as a soldier, but he wore a simple habit, probably something similar to what St. Francis wore. He was subjected to the Inquisition in Spain more than once. He gave his Spiritual Exercise to both religious and lay people before he was a priest. When he was ordained, he waited over a year to prepare himself to celebrate his first Mass.
Another thing I found astonishing was that Church authorities thought he and his followers were to familiar with the sacraments, especially the Eucharist because they received every Sunday. In his time, people received only once or twice a year. As someone who receives almost daily, it is so difficult to understand the Church's position at that time.
"Dearest Lord, teach me to be generous. Teach me to serve Thee as Thou deservest; to give and not count the cost; to fight and not heed the wounds; to toil and not seek for rest; to labor and not to seek reward, save that of knowing that I do thy will, O God. St. Ignatius

7 Quick Takes

2011-07-01T13:47:00.000-04:00

More Quick Takes at Conversion Diary.

1. Saying good-bye is difficult. Our daughter is leaving for an extended, unknown period of time. She is moving to Australia for a year and then wants to be a missionary somewhere, maybe Brazil, but it will depend on what she can find. She was away at school for four years and our son moved out two years ago, but Australia is very far away from Florida. VERY. FAR. AWAY. My mom was trying to convince me it is no different than when she lived in Gainesville or our son now living in New York. I wasn't buying it. In some ways it is more than the moving far away, it is the fact that truly my children are now adults and this part of my life where they are my responsibility is over. I am blessed beyond measure that both can take care of themselves and make good decisions, but it will take some time to get used to this new stage.
2. Last night we had dinner with a family we have been friends with since before either of us had children. We reminisced about many things the kids all did together. Our girls are two weeks apart and Elisa and I were the first visitors Kathy and Sarah had at the hospital. But even before that, Kathy and I took our pregnancy test together. Apparently we had never shared this before with the girls; they were surprised.
3. Elisa is going to NY before going to Australia. She'll spend time with family and go visit her brother in East Hampton for a few days. She will be in the U.S. until July 12.
4. Do I seem a bit focused on Elisa? Well, it's hard not to be with one day left to spend with her.

5. Elisa's best qualities are her determination, strength of faith, love of family and friends and her level headedness. She also has a quite a spirit of adventure but loves a good plan, especially if she has come up with it herself. She is loyal, values fairness, and holds on to traditions.

6. She likes to hold my hand when we are out and gives me hugs when I need them.

7. Elisa has the best qualities of both her parents, her few negative traits come, of course, from her dad! I'm kidding. But, in the interest of honesty, she is very much like me in that she does not suffer fools well at all.

Lot's Wife Syndrome

2011-06-29T16:14:00.000-04:00

This is from The Integrated Catholic Life, Lot's Wife Syndrome.

Take my life/ Holiness - Scott Underwood

2011-06-21T22:00:00.000-04:00

My song for Cursillo this coming weekend!

7 Quick Takes

2011-06-17T08:48:00.000-04:00

For more, go on over to Jen at Conversion Diary

1. Our daughter is home from her mission trip to Brazil. Yes, she fell in love with a Brazilian boy. He's 7 though, so they are not running off together anytime soon. She loved being there and enjoyed her time with the kids the most.
2. I have been taking in my skirts. Yesterday I was bored waiting for Elisa to get home, so I decorated one of my skirts with rows of little flowers about half way down the skirt. Just a few rows, but it looks cute. My new machine has some embroidery stitches, so I figured, why not try it out?
3. Tomorrow is Elisa's graduation, welcome home and bon voyage party. Thankfully, the shopping will be done by my husband. I'll just cook and bake. The menu is: grilled flank steak, roast pork tenderloin, tortellini salad, quinoa salad, cole slaw, rolls, orange and blue cupcakes, chocolate chip cookies and some appetizers I can't recall at this time. Tonight I will be baking!
4. The death of someone you love changes you. I find myself having little patience at people's "problems" and not understanding people's obsession with material things. Life is so fleeting and meant to be lived with and in love. I have never been one to suffer fools, but now it is even worse.
5. This morning as I got ready for work I went into the pantry to get something for breakfast. Guess what I found? My cell phone. No idea how that happened to get in there and I have no children to blame. Absentminded? I guess so.
6. Since school is out, I often have the pleasure of my husband's company at morning Mass. It is a great way to start the day!
7. Rachel Balducci over at Testosterhome had a post about calling your husband DH when writing. I don't like DH, but 'hubby' really sets me on edge. I do like her thoughts, pop over and take a look.

Hungry (Falling on my knees)

2011-06-14T17:24:00.000-04:00

This was one of our Communion songs at Diane's funeral. We didn't have drums :)

Pentecost Novena - Day 9

2011-06-10T07:33:00.000-04:00

Today is the last day of the novena and we pray for the Fruits of the Holy Spirit. In other words, that the gifts be made manifest in us.

Pentecost Novena - Day 8

2011-06-09T07:30:00.000-04:00

Wisdom is the most perfect of all the gifts of the Holy Spirit. Pray for an increase.

Death of a Friend

2011-06-09T02:46:00.001-04:00

Yesterday afternoon at 4:04 pm Diane passed from this life into the next.

     At about 2 pm, her husband Phil called and said the nurse had called and said it would be soon. I said I was on my way. As I pulling out of the parking lot my husband was pulling in; he parked and got into my car after I told him. As I pulled into the hospital parking lot our friend Tricia called and said she was just leaving work. We walked into the hospital and went upstairs. The sign saying "Check in with Nurse" was still on Diane's door; I ignored it. As a opened the door, the nurse came out of her chair to check who we were before allowing us in the room. We hugged Phil and sat down. Diane's breathing was shallow, but steady for the most part. We alternated between crying and quiet. Tricia finally got there; yes, the nurse stopped her too! Phil says to Diane, "Well, the gang's all here Diane." In my mind I kept seeing Diane, Tricia and me almost four years ago, in a different hospital, holding hands over her hospital bed and promising to stand with her and beat the odds of a 39 year old woman surviving almost stage 4 ovarian cancer. We didn't. But Diane, Tricia and I became like sisters by God's design and the journey.
     A little before 4 pm the nurse came in and said she had orders to drain the fluid from Diane's belly to keep her comfortable, so we all left and went into the family room. Another friend was there waiting and praying. Phil got up after a bit and wandered back to Diane's room and we waited for the nurse to call us back.
     Tricia saw the nurse motioning to us and got up, telling us to come. I'm not sure what Tricia said to the nurse, but then I heard "she passed" and Tricia saying, "what, she passed?" And the nurse nodding and touching our arms. We all began crying, and then moved to go to the room. Phil came out and we then we went in together to see Diane.
     She was at peace. We cried, prayed, said good bye to her body. Another dear friend of hers came in to say goodbye. She and her husband had seen Phil as he was leaving the hospital to go tell the children.
In the end, she did not die alone, as was her desire. We were with her until almost her last breath and then she was alone with her husband, as is right.
     I suppose by now, Diane has met God. My husband asked me last night, "Do you think Diane is done yelling at God by now?" I said, "She never had a chance to yell. She was overcome with such love she couldn't." She has maybe learned a few things and seen her family and friends already in heaven. Maybe she is in purgatory or maybe after all her earthly suffering it just took a second. Who knows? Time in heaven is not time on earth.
     There are more stories to tell, but not now.
     It was a journey I would have rather not taken, but would not have missed for anything.

Tricia, Diane, me on Easter Sunday 2011

Pentecost Novena - Day 7

2011-06-08T07:28:00.000-04:00

Counsel gives us prudence in difficult situations. If you live in this world, surely you will pray for this gift.

Pentecost Novena - Day 6

2011-06-07T07:25:00.002-04:00

Today we pray for the gift of understanding.

Pentecost Novena - Day 5

2011-06-06T23:25:00.000-04:00

Knowledge helps to inform our conscience and discern God's will. Pray that you grow in knowledge.

Novena - Day 4

2011-06-05T07:47:00.003-04:00

The Gift of Fortitude, so we can keep our eye on the prize. Prayer time!

Novena - Day 3

2011-06-04T07:44:00.001-04:00

What is more necessary for living the authentic Christian life than the Gift of Piety? Pray today.

Novena - Day 2

2011-06-03T07:42:00.001-04:00

Today we pray for the Gift of Fear.

MERCY ME - WORD OF GOD SPEAK - MUSIC VIDEO

2011-06-02T07:52:00.000-04:00

Pentecost Novena

2011-06-02T07:42:00.000-04:00

Day 1 starts today. Let's pray!

The Mission

2011-05-30T10:50:00.000-04:00

What an extraordinary movie. It won an Oscar in 1987 for Best Cinematography and stars Robert De Niro, Jeremy Irons, Ray McAnnaly, and Liam Neeson. It tells the story of the Jesuit missions founded in South America during the 18th century. The Jesuits brought not only the Gospel to the indigenous people but also order, laws, protection from slave traders. In the end, the Church, personified by the Cardinal, sells out the missions and the missionaries. The priests choose to stay and fight, three with the sword, one with the Eucharist. The end though is the same for all.

32 Years

2011-05-30T10:25:00.000-04:00

For some bloggers who I read that is longer than they have been alive! My math brainy husband tells me that is more than 2/3 of my life that I have spent with him. We haven't been married 32 years; that us when we started dating or as we said back then, "going out." "Going out" meant we had an exclusive relationship. My mother was not happy. She forbid it. I cried, yelled, pleaded; my sister intervened, "Don't worry mom, it won't last." I'm not sure what made my mom change her mind, maybe it was the shock of my sister being on my side, even in a backhanded sort of way or maybe it was because she was still in bed and hadn't had her coffee yet. Who knows?
My husband is an introvert by nature. But he stepped way out of his comfort zone to meet me. He knew me before I knew him in that live in the neighborhood go to the same church sort of way. His brother dated a girl I was in the folk group with and my brothers played basketball at the school gym so that is where he would see me.
I was in high school, he in college when we began dating. We married after four years; he had graduated and I was a junior in college. He proposed to me in our Church, getting down on one knee after carrying the ring in his pocket during the basketball practice. I never actually said "yes" but he put the ring on my finger and we walked to my house to show my family. I was so very happy.
And after all these years, I am still so very happy. We haven't always ben happy. The journey has at times been rough as we found our way to love each other and become adults. Our children are a joy and a blessing to us and I hope that one day they have what we have in our life together. Love, respect, joy and still the thrill when we slow dance. Marriage is not easy, but every day I thank God for the blessing of the man he gave me. I know he does the same.

7 Quick Takes

2011-05-27T12:10:00.001-04:00

Jen hosts 7 Quick Takes every Friday! 1. Our daughter is home for another day, then she goes to Miami to meet the rest of the mission team before leaving for Brazil on Monday. She is going with FOCUS which I think is a wonderful group evangelizing college campuses all over the country. Please keep the group in your prayers.

2. I am sure this news will make your day; I'm wearing my pink converse today because it's Friday!

3. My husband has returned to the living. He finished all the work for his alternative certification program to become a teacher. Now, it all gets hole punched and placed in a binder and given to the district office. He already passed all the exams associated with this program so sometime this summer his official teaching certificate will arrive. I am happy for so many reasons. And thrilled to have my husband back for myself!

4. I heard this quote of St. Augustine's twice this week, so I'll share it with you, "In essentials, unity; in non-essentials, liberty; in all things, charity."

5. The empty bedroom in our house has now become a storage unit for furniture and household items of both our son's girlfriend's and our daughter's stuff. I wonder how long do you keep stuff that your children no longer use or need. SG's stuff is only temporary, until she moves back here. But our daughter is leaving for Australia and really has no idea when she is coming back. So, what do I do with the toaster and trash can and mirror and and and. Then there's the other stuff; old scout uniforms, school projects, toys, and more. UGH! Too much stuff!

6. I can't wait to plan our vacation for this summer. We are probably going to North Carolina and staying at a friend's house. We are considering going white water rafting. When I mentioned this to our daughter, she was a bit miffed that we'd consider doing that without her and her brother, since that was always a great time for all of us together. I really could not work up much sympathy though for either of them. He in East Hampton, NY for the summer and her, going to Brazil and then moving to Australia.

7. Right now, there are many struggles and much suffering with my friend who is dying. Please pray for her and her family as they journey with her from life to death. The journey is long and not easy.

Book Review - The Doubter's Novena

2011-05-23T21:49:00.001-04:00

The Doubter's Novena, Nine Steps to Trust with the Apostle Thomas by Mike Aquilina and Christopher Bailey is an awesome little book. When I say "little" I am only referring to the actual size of the book and number of pages; the content is very BIG! Of course, I did not follow instructions and use this book as a novena. I just couldn't put it down once I started reading. Each day of the novena begins with scriptural and/or historical information about Thomas, then we move into the contemporary world and learn how we can be "Just like Thomas." Each day concludes with a prayer to God or asks for Thomas' intercession.
I enjoyed learning about St. Thomas and have a new appreciation for him. I realize that I am like him in some ways; I find it hard to trust at times, I fear the unknown but I desire to foucs on what is important, namely Jesus and detach myself from earthly things. Thomas is willing to do whatever Jesus asks of him and I want to do the same.
There are many quotable snippets in this book, but I will leave you with this thought: "What God is asking us for is a bit of trust - trust in God , first of all, and trust in the people made in his image. When we push our limits and go out into the world, we find that there are good people everywhere waiting for us, hungry for the message we have to bring them."
This review was written as part of the Catholic book reviewer program from The Catholic Company. Visit The Catholic Company to find more information on The Doubter's Novena . They are also a great source for a Catechism of the Catholic Church or a Catholic Bible.

Dress Shopping

2011-05-23T13:01:00.000-04:00

Saturday afternoon, at the mall, shopping for a new dress with your girlfriend. Sounds like a good time, even though neither of us are really shoppers. In this case, though, not so much. You see, we weren't shopping for a happy event, but for a sad one. Our friend's funeral. The three of us, D, T, and me, we are sisters in every sense except by birth. (A total aside, our three initials, DDT) D has not died, but she will, possibly soon, though no one knows except God and he hasn't penciled it to any one's planner.
It was very odd, this shopping trip. Most dresses were dismissed as too cheery so it was basic black or nothing. T eventually bought a dress. It looks nice, but there was no pleasure in this shopping expedition, none at all. She also bought a teal shrug; teal is the color for ovarian cancer. I suppose we could have waited to shop, but then it would have been more stressful. Besides, we would only be postponing what seems to be inevitable.
I have never thought about death as much as I have in these last few months. It colors so much of what I do and how I feel. Sometimes my living is too hard.

Statues of Blessed John Paul II

2011-05-23T12:19:00.002-04:00

AP Story

By now, many of you have probably seen this statue of Blessed John Paul II. I will kindly call it very unattractive. Bear in mind that as a rule, modern art leaves me cold. People are in a uproar though about this statue. Thankfully I have a beautiful statue for you to look at instead.

The statue below is the St. Peter Meditation Garden. While it is larger than life - it shows Blessed John Paul II in a familiar pose, reaching out to his people, a look of love on his face, holding his papal cross.

Prayer for the Intercession of

Pope John Paul II

O Holy Trinity,we thank you for having given to the Church Pope John Paul II, and for having made him shine with your fatherly tenderness, the glory of the Cross of Christ and the splendor of the Spirit of love. He, trusting completely in your infinite mercy and in the maternal intercession of Mary, has shown himself in the likeness of Jesus the Good Shepherd and has pointed out to us holiness as the path to reach eternal communion with You. Grant us, through his intercession, according to your will, the grace that we implore,in the hope that he will soon be numbered among your saints. Amen. (from EWTN)

Liminal Space

2011-05-15T22:26:00.000-04:00

Liminal Space - standing in the doorway, in between two spaces; not in one place or the other; waiting to move forward to the 'next' thing

Today was a liminal space sort of day. My friend who is dying from ovarian cancer held her daughter's recital this afternoon. Her daughter sang very well, beautiful voice and was quite composed. Most of the women in the room shed more than a few tears. I didn't. It's not that I don't feel the sadness of it all, the bittersweet taste that lingers far after the event is over almost chokes me. This week I've watched her say goodbye to two people. Both are leaving until the fall and thinking she will be here when they return is not realistic. She is in a liminal space and many of us are there with her. But as a person of faith, I know what is in front of her is far more reassuring than what is in front of the rest of us.

I have never been this close to a person who is dying. I am asked on a regular basis, "how is she?" In my head I sometimes scream "SHE IS DYING!!!!" but I never say it, instead I offer the platitudes people want to hear, "she's doing well, holding on, hoping for the best."

Per her request, I no longer ask her how she is feeling or tell her she looks good. She never feels good, just a 1 - 10 sliding scale of pain and looking good is a truly pointless comment. She'd trade one head for two if it meant her cancer would be gone.

Tomorrow is her birthday. 43. It will most likely be her last one. She hopes to make it to June 4, her son's birthday. She is ready, some days, to move from the liminal space. Other days, she is not.
I pray that when she leaves this liminal space, the rest of us have the courage to do so as well. And so, we pray.

This is Pro-life!

2011-05-14T18:23:00.000-04:00

A worried woman went to her gynecologist and said: ''Doctor, I have a serious problem and desperately need your help! My baby is not even 1 year old and I'm pregnant again. I don't want kids so close together.''
So the doctor said: ''Ok and what do you want me to do?''
She said: ''I want you to end my pregnancy, and I'm counting on your help with this.''
The doctor thought for a little, and after some silence he said to the lady:
''I think I have a better solution for your problem. It's less dangerous for you too.''
She smiled, thinking that the doctor was going to accept her request.
Then he continued: ''You see, in order for you not to have to take care of 2 babies at the same time, let's kill your present one-year-old. This way, you could rest a little before the other one is born. If we're going to kill one of them, it doesn't matter which one it is. There would be no risk for your body if you chose to kill the one in your arms.''
The lady was horrified and said: ''No doctor! How terrible! It's a crime to kill a child!"'
''I agree,'' the doctor replied. ''But you seemed to be OK on killing your unborn child, so I thought maybe that you'd agree to kill the other one. I believe that what I propose, given your situation, is the best solution.''
The doctor smiled, realizing that he had made his point. He convinced the mom that there is no difference in killing a child that's already been born and one that's still in the womb.

The crime is the same!

Thanks to my friend Trish for sending this to me.

7 Quick Takes

2011-05-13T14:00:00.000-04:00

1. I am ready to be back doing some writing. It is a good way for me to write and this upcoming week may allow me some time to do so.
2. Jennifer asks what would your worst job be in her Quick Takes. My answer, accountant. Anything to do with numbers bores me to tears and frustrates me. Probably because I am bad at math, little details about numbers, and have a hard time seeing patterns in numbers. I am a people person, that's that! What would your worst job be?
3. My son is going back to New York, the Hamptons for the summer. Yes he is going to work, but he will also get to have fun. His girlfriend is also going to work up there. I suppose it is only fair that I have them here for part of the year and her family has them the other part.
4. My daughter has graduated. She choose not to walk, so I have no pictures. She is still in G'ville so we have yet to celebrate. The plan is to celebrate when she comes home from her Brazil mission trip and before she leaves on her next adventure. Hopefully she'll be here more than five minutes!
5. My book group has been reading Interior Castle by St. Teresa of Avila. Yesterday we called it quits. We have tried and tried, but cannot grasp her points. Five women, all of us passionate about reading, very intelligent; among us we have over ten degrees, years of study, one of us a former sister and yet, can't get through it. So, it will go back on my shelf for another time.
6. Mother's Day was a non-event for me. Both children not around, husband up to his eyeballs in studies and certification, so I knew it would be a non-event. But it didn't matter. Why? because as I thought about my children I realized they are both just where they want to be in their life right now. They have been blessed and so I am as well. While a part of me is sad that physically they are not close to me and so I don;t see them very often, they are living out their lives in awesome ways (or at least about to), becoming the person God is calling them to become. What more could I possibly want?
7. I have a new ministry focus in my life right now. I am a part of a Cursillo team which will put on a retreat for women on June 23-26. I am enjoying getting to know the team, writing my talk and soon learning about all my tasks to help make the weekend run smoothly.

Holy Week Prayer

2011-04-20T11:48:00.000-04:00

Dear Lord Jesus, by Your Passion and Resurrection

You brought life to the world.

But the glory of the Resurrection came only after the sufferings of the Passion.

You laid down Your life willingly and gave up everything for us.

Your body was broken and fastened to a Cross, Your clothing became the prize of soldiers,

your blood ebbed slowly but surely away, and Your Mother was entrusted to the beloved disciple.

Stretched out on the Cross, deprived of all earthly possessions and human aid,

You cried out to Your Father that the end had come. You had accomplished the work given You,

and You committed into His hands, as a perfect gift, the little life that remained to You.

Lord, teach me to accept all afflictions after the example You have given.

Let me place my death in Yours and my weakness in Your abandonment,

Take hold of me with Your love, that same foolish love that knew no limits,

and let me offer myself to the Father with You so that I may rise with You to eternal life.

Unplugging

2011-04-10T18:52:00.000-04:00

I am officially on hiatus from this blog and Facebook. I am unplugging myself from electronic media as much as possible. Why not totally? Well, I'm responsible for our parish website, blog and Facebook page. So, that I will continue with...the rest stops until further notice. See ya.

In the news...

2011-04-08T16:04:00.000-04:00

Wow, how exciting to be able to go and dialogue in Rome about blogging. I can dream....
Vatican invites Catholic bloggers to dialogue

Mid-season Check

2011-04-04T18:06:00.000-04:00

Well, we are slightly past the helf way point of Lent. Yesterday was Laetare Sunday so the rose colored vestments were worn, much to one of our deacon's dismay. I keep wondering how my lent is going in termns of the comittments I made on Ash Wednesday. It's not stellar, but not awful. I wonder, does it have to be stellar, or does the trying count? I hope it does. I am reminded of Thomas Merton's Prayer of Abondonment at times like these:
My Lord God, I have no idea where I am going. I do not see the road ahead of me. I cannot know for certain where it will end. Nor do I really know myself, and the fact that I think I am following your will does not mean that I am actually doing so. But I believe that the desire to please you does in fact please you and I hope that I have that desire in all that I am doing. And I know that if I do this, you will lead me by the right road although I may know nothing about it. Therefore will I trust you always though I may seem to be lost and in the shadow of death, I will not fear, for you are ever with me and you will never leave me to face my perils alone.
God knows the desires of my heart. Like all of you, I am moving toward Holy Week. Sometimes I am stumbling, groping in the dark or have my eyes fixed straight ahead. I will get there. And sometimes, that's enough.

Sunday Reflection

2011-04-03T12:02:00.000-04:00

In the second reading and the Gospel we are called to open our eyes, live in the light and do what is pleasing to God. When I read the Gospel, I kept thinking "who is blind?" And I realized that often, instead of thinking that I am blind, that it is everyone around me. But, truthfully, if the first thought is about someone else, that is wrong. I am blind to my shortcomings and failings. I can be blind to the needs of those around me because I am wrapped up in my own desires.

The Pharisees are blind to their own need to be in charge, to be right, to be in control. That is why they had so many rules to follow, so everything could happen exactly the way it is supposed to happen. But those rules caused them to be blind to the needs of those around them.

In the frist reading about Samuel and David, I thought about whom I identified most with in the story. I asked myself the question again as read the Gospel. First I thought, well, the blind man. I want Jesus to open my eyes to see clearly what is going on around me, so I can be of service to him. Then I sat a little longer with the reading. The next thought made me uncomfortable. No, I don’t want to be Jesus. I want to be in charge. Which sounds like a Pharisee. It goes back to my first comment, who are the people around me who need to open their eyes. And who is going to open their eyes? Me. By telling everyone what to do and how to do it, if everyone would follow my rules, agree with my plans things would be great.

Well, not really. I am good at many things, just like all of you. But I am not good at everything, just like you. Our blindness comes when we forget to acknowledge our own faults and failings but clearly see our husband’s, children’s or co-workers’. Our blindness is apparent when we don’t see others’ gifts and talents because to do so might mean to acknowledge that the person might be better at it than me or worse, can do something I can’t do at all. Our blindness can strike us when 'different' from me becomes 'bad.' To me, anytime I see only one side, I am blind.

Jesus can heal us of our spiritual blindness. Once we admit change is needed, the work can begin. In our parish, there is much work to do. And as we discussed last night, all of us are called in some way to contribute. By thinking about what you can do, rather than thinking about what others should be we move form blindness to sight.

open the eyes of my heart lord

2011-04-03T12:00:00.000-04:00

7 Quick Takes

2011-04-01T08:03:00.000-04:00

1. Our daughter is graduating from University of Florida at the end of April. However, all of our focus is on FOCUS and the mission trip she is taking in May. She has to raise money, which pays for the trip and the materials to do the work in Brazil. I can't believe that another milestone has been reached seemingly in the blink of an eye.
2. Last Saturday we met with the deaconate formation scrutinies committee. It was interesting, but made me feel like I was under the microscope with questions about my work since I am employed at my parish. I was slightly reassured when another couple had the same experience, since she works as the assistant principal at the parish school. Oh well, it is what it is and whatever it will be.
3. I have learned that to really recharge after too much work I need to be alone. But it seems my life keeps getting in the way of being alone. This weekend is full of activity and after working twelve days straight I just want to curl up on the couch. Finding balance is probably the most difficult thing for me.
4. A little Aquinas: Freedom proceeds from intellect and will. Our intellect informs our will and our will is always orientated toward good. When we exercise our freedom to choose evil, our intellect no longer informs our will and we behave in ways which are not congruent with our true selves.
5. Our book group is reading The Interior Castle by St. Teresa of Avila. We have read up to the Third Dwelling. I like her style; she is very earthy. But, if talk of creepy crawly thing bothers you, you might have to skip over some spots!
6. Sunday afternoon, Brian Gail, author of Fatherless and Motherless, is speaking at St. Jude Catholic Church. He is a seasonal parishioner there and will give a talk discussing the social conditions and trends which he has written about. It will be interesting to hear him speak.
7. Lent is not going according to my plan. Which is typical, so I am doing my best to surrender and accept what God places before me rather than fighting over things. Some days I am better at it than others.

Enjoy your weekend and be sure to take a look at more Quick Takes!

This That and the Other Thing: Sunday Snippets--A Catholic Carnival

2011-03-20T11:37:00.000-04:00

This That and the Other Thing: Sunday Snippets--A Catholic Carnival

Sunday Snippets - A Catholic Carnival

2011-03-20T11:36:00.000-04:00

Today we read about the Transfigurtaion, so allow me to direct you to this post from the 2nd Sunday of Lent in '07.
Enjoy this song by Eli, King of the Hill.
And lastly, a post on God's Will.

For more Snippets, go on over to This That and The Other Thing.

King of the Hill - Eli

2011-03-19T12:35:00.000-04:00

Good song for Lent.

7 Quick Takes

2011-03-18T15:59:00.001-04:00

More Quick Takes, Click Above

1. This has been a difficult week. Monday our daughter called from school to tell us about her friend who was in a terrible accident and not expected to live. She died on Wednesday, after the hospital let her friends go and say goodbye to her. I was so proud of Elisa for being there, but at the same wishing she didn't have to do something so hard without me. The memorial service is Sunday for this young woman who died so young.

2. It's seminary weekend! Sorry, is it wrong to be excited? Last Friday we had an interview with a deacon couple. We spent time all together and then separated. The wife asked me some questions about ministry, the Church, if I was comfortable with priests, and so forth. Then she asked me if how did I feel when John was away for the weekend at seminary. I had to remind myself not to laugh. I simply said it was not a problem and life always seemed to give me plenty to do so I didn't miss him too much. This weekend I have a St. Joseph's dinner with all of our friends, then tomorrow I'll spend the day with a girlfriend who is visiting, Sunday morning Mass and work and then, he's back. Piece of cake.

3. Sunday afternoon we have a special lunch planned with four other families for our friend who is dying of cancer. It promises to be a beautiful day and all the children will be there except two who are away at school. My son and his girlfriend are even joining us. We'll celebrate spring and life for as long as we can.
4. Since it is Lent we are eating many more meatless meals than usual. However, I prefer them much more to meat meals, so what is the sacrifice? Today for lunch I had brown rice with green pea pesto, it was so much better than say, a turkey sandwich.
5. I have a serious candle addiction.

6. My annual well visit was yesterday. One hour and forty-five minutes is how long it took. I will not explain why. I will say it was not that I was kept waiting in the waiting room. So, there was good news and okay new and not too bad news. And, I have to have an ultrasound on my thyroid to check the growths on it, a bone density scan because I take thyroid medication, a chest x-ray because it's good to have a baseline and a mammogram because I had the last one when I was forty, which is seven years ago. The truth is that if my friend did not have cancer, I would probably have none of this or at most the thyroid done. But I feel as if I must do what I am told so I can monitor my health and be proactive. Not that she wasn't, she was, but that story is not a quick take!

7. My husband and I went to the Society of the Four Arts Garden yesterday. These were my two favorite sculptures:

Surreal

2011-03-16T22:00:00.000-04:00

Parts of my life have taken on a very surreal quality. Namely, the heart wrenching, inexplicable, painful parts. Some days all I hear is painful news about lives being torn apart. I have had a few of those in a row and am feeling numb. I keep praying for strength and perseverance for everyone involved, but I do not let myself get too close to my own pain. It's like an accident on the side of the road, you don't want to look, but you take that quick glance and say "Dear God, let them be okay." Only now, I am saying it about myself. I see the pain sitting there, glance quickly and then move away.
But this is not a dream, it is real. This Lent I am journeying not only with Jesus as he makes his way to Calvary, but also with a friend who is dying of cancer. Each day brings her closer to the end and though I think I am prepared for the markers she is passing, when it happens I continue to wonder how we got here. I'm sure the apostles felt that way also as they journeyed to Jerusalem with Jesus. My prayer is to be like Mary and stay at the foot of the cross.

God's Will?

2011-03-15T20:28:00.000-04:00

The last two days have been filled with news of dying. One is a young woman, 22 years old, lying brain dead in a hospital after an accident. She is a friend of my daughter's and at any time they will decide to remove her respirator. At Mass this morning I was praying for her and her sister and friends who are trying to make some sense of htis tragedy and support each other. And of course, I kept asking "why does God allow this to happen?"
And clear as a person's voice I heard, "He doesn't allow it, but is there with us and helps us heal." As Mass began, I heard the Gospel, which is Jesus teaching the apostles to pray the "Our Father." As I listened to the words, I realized that God is very near to us always and ready to give us what we need. Suffering in this world occurs not because God allows it but rather, it is a part of the human condition. We gain nothing by asking "why" but so much when we ask God to be with us and help us reach out to those in need.
I am not going to list the suffering I have witnessed this week, there is enough, I'm sure, in your life and the world.
God's will is not that we suffer or watch those we love suffer. His will is to reach out, draw us close, and comfort us. Sometimes he uses us to help those who are suffering; other times those who are suffering help us. I am slowly learning to not ask "why" about suffering, but to pray and seek God's will for me in the suffering.

Catholic Media Day!

2011-03-15T08:36:00.000-04:00

Welcome to the first official Catholic Media Promotion Day! Most are here because they are fans of Catholic media and it has had a positive influence in their lives. (Oh, and some others would like a shot at the free iPad… but you can help too.) This is your time to bring Catholic media to others, to evangelize through new media.

Here's what we're going to do today:

Everyone with a blog, podcast, or Facebook page should list their favorite 3 blogs, 3 podcasts, 3 other media, 3 random Catholic things online, and their own projects. After you've promoted them out there, post your list to our wall here.

Also, go to iTunes and leave at least 3 positive written reviews for various Catholic podcasts and 3 positive written reviews for Catholic mobile applications.

Be creative! It doesn't take a blog or even a Facebook page to participate. You could e-mail a couple of your favorites to ten friends. Or write reviews for some of your favorite Catholic books on Amazon. Or plug your diocesan newspaper on your local community web forum.

This is all about getting your favorite Catholic media out in front of more people so that it can do more good. The only way to get this wrong is to do nothing, so let's all get out there and promote. Happy Catholic Media Promotion Day! Or to borrow the words of dismissal from the end of Mass: Ite, missa est!

3 Blogs
A Catholic Mom Climbing the Pillars
Betty Duffy
A Priest's Wife

3 Podcasts
Divine Office
The Catholic Underground
American Catholic Radio

3 Other Media
United States Conference of Catholic Bishops
Catholic Music Express
Spirit & Song, Music on Demand

3 Random Catholic Things Online
Ignatian Spirituality
Creighton University Prayer Site
Integrated Catholic Life

My Own Projects
Examiner Religion Writer
St. Peter Catholic Church Website
My Blog

Social Media Revolution 2 (Refresh)

2011-03-14T12:48:00.000-04:00

Amazing!

7 Quick Takes

2011-03-11T11:45:00.000-05:00

1. Ash Wednesday was so very busy here at church. We began at 7 am with Mass and I got home 12 1/2 hours later. I had to lector 3 times and distribute ashes twice. When I distribute ashes, I say "Turn away form sin and be faithful to the Gospel." I like that because it sums up what we are to, not just during Lent, but always.

2. Speaking of ashes, I truly dislike putting them on babies' foreheads. They don't sin. But I do it if the parent indicates I should. One mom came to me with a baby in her arms and I gave her ashes. Moments later I looked up and saw her standing in front of the priest, having him put ashes on the baby. He was confused because when he was done, he went to put them on her, but she already had them. What do you think about ashes on babies? What happens in your parish?

3. Tonight we have a deacon couple coming over to interview us for the deaconate formation program. I'm not nervous or anything, just very tired, so I hope it goes well.

4. I am struggling with finding positive ways to relieve stress and tension. My usual way is to eat, but that is not happening. It all comes down to taking care of myself, which is so difficult for me. I'm trying to get extra sleep, I take my vitamins, go to daily Mass, but it's not enough. All of my tension is in my neck and shoulders, so I almost don't even want to be touched. I'm open to suggestions.

5. Lent is very busy this year at the parish, which means at work for me. I am working with the stewardship council to put on our parish mission this year. Usually we have an outside speaker, but it didn't work out this year. Our foucs is ministry and vision for the parish. I hope it is well received.

6. I put Goggle Analytics on our parish website to find out if people are using the site. So far, I've been disappointed in our traffic. Do you go to your parish website? for what? how often?

7. 40 days of Life has begun. My husband and I signed up for 9 am Saturday mornings to pray at the abortion clinic. We've gone before, but not on a consistent basis. Reading UnPlanned really hit home as to the power of prayer.

Read more Quick Takes at Conversion Diary!

Hampers

2011-03-11T10:55:00.001-05:00

So this may seem an odd topic for a spiritual post, but here goes. I needed to buy a new hamper since our current one was falling apart, literally, the wicker or whatever it is, was breaking up and then our clothes were catching on it. So, I looked around in quite a few stores - no luck. Moved to the Internet - possibilities, though my husband vetoed the $159.00 hamper. Are you wondering what my problem is with hampers? Okay, I wanted one with a lid, not wicker or plastic, would hold more than two shirts, and not cost more than $30. It's a dirty clothes holder that two people see. Finally, I find one on-line, but it and get it. It's ripped. Return it, get a new one, open it, and...it's ripped. I really like this hamper, light colored, lid, $24.95, not wicker or plastic; but ripped!

Today I went to Target, my last hope, no exaggeration. I found a very utilitarian, white plastic hamper with a lid and wheels, $17.99. It's not what I really wanted, but it will work. In the store I was having a running internal dialogue with myself about a hamper, A HAMPER! I eventually decided a few things:
1. There are people in this world that had no place to live, let alone clothes to put in a hamper.
2. It's Lent, and a good time to practice emptying oneself, so I should let go of my need to have a nice hamper.
3. I could cover it in fabric to make it look pretty. Bad idea, see #2.
4. In the big picture, does it matter? No, it really is not important that I don;t 'like' the hamper.
5. The real questions is, will this hamper do it's job? Yes, it will. The dirty clothes will be in one place and BONUS - we can wheel it to the laundry room.
6. There's more, but i think you get the idea.

So, the spiritual part: In my letting go of my perceived hamper needs I learned that I spend too much time thinking about what I deserve in life and not enough time being grateful for what I have. I am in this negative mode of seeing what is missing, instead of seeing what is there. Do I have every material thing I want? No. Do I have every material thing I need? Yes and more.

Lent has just begun and it is already working.